A common misconception is that the roadblock to success (and thus happiness) is a lack of resources. Alas, it’s not.
It’s not a lack of time, money, or education. It’s not because you don’t have a personal trainer or a sous chef (this is often my reasoning). It’s not your bank account, your job, your husband, wife, kids, or even the past.
It’s not that you don’t know how to run Facebook ads, you don’t have enough followers or a big enough email list. (Sigh)
The biggest roadblock we all face regarding success (in anything) is…our lifestyle.
Our beliefs, the actions we take daily (aka habits), and the people we surround ourselves with create how we live. And how you live may very well be holding you back.
The power of belief.
What you believe about yourself is what you will create and receive in your life. If you think money comes by struggle, you will always struggle.
If you think you are “bad with money,” you will mismanage money.
If you think money comes from hard work, you will always have to work hard to get money.
We’ve all been raised with a bunch of mandates on our beliefs that simply aren’t helpful. They are old wives’ tales, myths, superstitions, and general societal fears that people operate by as if they were the golden rule. Some of what we are taught (do unto others…) is valuable advice. But have the strength to stray from the herd. To let go of the past and believe in your future. To walk your own path.
To get something you’ve never had, you have to do things you’ve never done.
Every, single time I’ve pushed myself to get out of my comfort zone it’s paid off. And usually in a pretty big way. It’s hard. Sometimes there are tears. There’s almost always fear. But the prize I visualize at the end is bigger than the tears and the fears. So, (most of the time) I push through.
Sometimes change doesn’t involve tears or fear but pain. There’s pain in lifting weights and seeing no immediate benefit. There’s pain in throwing the bag of Ruffles out and seeing no immediate weight loss. There’s pain in writing and posting content without a huge audience of viewers. But which came first? The chicken or the egg? You have to do all those things (consistently) before you will gain strength, lose weight, or amass a dedicated tribe of followers and customers.
Who do you love?
It’s a proven, scientifically researched fact—the heavier your friends are, the heavier you will be. The more they work out and live a healthy lifestyle, the more you will as well. The same is true for every area of your life. You are the sum total of the 5 people closest to you.
Hang out with people who are already doing what you want to do. Emulate them. Copy them. Whatever you have to do to create the good habits that will, in turn, create you and the life you want.
Your focus is your future.
Where is your attention? What are you truly committed to? Do your actions reflect those commitments each day?
Where your thoughts go, you go. If you regularly expose yourself to the negativity of the news channels, the uninformed regurgitation of news on the social channels, and people who worry and gossip, your life will reflect negativity, worry, and judgment.
Change your focus, change your life. Start by observing your negative thoughts. We have 60,000+ thoughts a day, and the majority lean toward negativity, complaints, worry, and anxiety. That is no way to live the life of your dreams.
Ever evolving.
My lifestyle has changed tremendously. Not just in the last 5 years but even in the last 6 months.
I do a lot of things now I’ve never done before and mostly because I’ve learned how to control my thoughts.
The most significant determinant of your lifestyle: your thoughts.
Our thoughts create emotions, emotions create our actions (and habits), and our actions create our results. Focus your thoughts on gratitude. On abundance. On peace in your life. On health in your body. Imagine and feel what your desired lifestyle is like before you have it and know, down to the tips of your toes, it is coming.
You can create any results you want to create. From weight loss to daily Stripe deposits in your bank account. You just have to think the right thoughts, believe them wholeheartedly, act accordingly, and the rest will follow suit.
Always behind you 1,000%-
Julia